This Spring Break I spent the week traveling through the Caribbean so the next few entries are going to be about "dating" on spring break. As a sort of primer I will first discuss the vacationship.
For a bit of background- I am a bit notorious for my love of the vacationship. So notorious in fact, that immediately after my trip I received e-mails (somewhat in jest) asking if I fell in love. The reason I love vacationships are simple - it's a relationship with a deadline. You know that it's going to be up in a week so you're going to make it as awesome as possible. This means that you get all of the really fun times with no drama! Of course, a vacationship is much more than that.
Definition:
A vacationship is a relationship that begins and ends in the course of a vacation. This means a guilt-free, no-strings-attached hookup without the negative aspects of an actual relationship (real commitment, breakups, taking one another out on dates, drama, meeting the parents). However, most of the time this requires both parties to be willing to be exclusive for the entirety of the vacation.
Pros and Cons:
This has several advantages and disadvantages. Some obvious advantages are guaranteed booty. In a vacationship you don’t have to go to the bars every night hitting on the most spliffed-up, unattractive monster in order to get some. This is because you’ve already got your partner- so the booty hunt is over. Another huge advantage is the whole guilt-free aspect. This means that you can do what you want for a week without feeling like a slut. As wonderful as all of this stuff is, there are some disadvantages. An immediate commitment is required. This means that your time chasing tail is pretty much over because you’re going to be with one person the entire vacation duration. So there is no use trying to upgrade to a higher grade, classier partner. If you do choose to use the trade-up model the vacationship is reduced to a vacation hook-up and the feelings of guilt and sluttiness may apply.
Requirements:
Although there are a myriad of lovely advantages in having a vacationship these benefits may only apply if certain requirements are followed. The first is instant chemistry. This obviously must be mutual (this might seem obvious, but some people do not understand this aspect). The second is the willingness to just see (or insert euphemism alternative here) each other. The third is a freedom within the vacationship that allows both parties to spend time with their friends. So yes, in a vacationship flirting and titillating is allowed and even encouraged. Obviously the biggest factor of the three is the exclusivity. Both parties are only allowed to mess around with one another (unless they chose to add another or whatever). If either party strays the vacationship is degraded because it’s no longer a pseudo relationship. It is just a random vacation hook-up.
So?
Vacationships are awesome. They allow you to go after someone you never would in real life. Have a secret fantasy about a Marine, middle-aged man, mother or midget? GO FOR IT! The vacationship allows you to feel guiltless when you’re with someone your friends would never approve of. It allows you to be with someone even you wouldn’t normally approve of. So in this way the vacationship is not only a vacation from the stresses of real life and dating but it’s also a vacation from you.
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